Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Languish or Flourish?

Today I learned two new terms about Positive Emotional Attractor (PEA) and Negative Emotional Attractor (NEA) in my Coursera course on Inspiring Leadership through Emotional Intelligence. Here’s a quick snapshot of PEA. The PEA is:

  1. Being in PNS (Parasympathetic Nervous System) arousal; feeling positive and hopeful; thinking about the future, dreams, and possibilities;
  2. Being optimistic, focusing on one’s strengths;
  3. Excited about trying something new, experimenting; and
  4. Being in resonant relationships.

Just last week I was talking about my learning style (identified as "pragmatist") and I'm happy to see that it is resonating well with PEA, which I learned today through my own self-directed study.

Also not forgetting that negative emotions are stronger than positive, it is, therefore, important to spend 3 to 6 times in the PEA as the time spend in the NEA to compensate for it. I was thinking about this for quite a bit. While we can’t dwell in NEA (feeling negative and fear; thinking about the past or present, expectations of others and problems, etc.), I do think NEA has its place and is useful to keep us on our toes. It creates a certain state of dissatisfaction and triggers us to make changes. A little bit of stress is good for us!

I also like the sound of the loving-kindness meditation. Related to this thought, please check out the video by Barbara Fredrickson on Positive Emotions Transform Us. I would certainly like to increase my daily diet of positive emotions by “cultivating,” “generating,” and then of course, “directing” this positiveness to others around me (even to my pet cat, Trio!). Languish or flourish? I want to flourish. Let us flourish, my friends!

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