Monday, February 23, 2009

He's Just Not That Into You

He's Just Not That Into You
By Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo
Publisher: Simon Spotlight Entertainment
Published on January 2009
ISBN-13: 9781416909774
208 pages

Chapter 1, First Paragraph: Many women have said to me, "Greg, men run the world." Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we could be incapable of picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're "too shy" or we "just got out of something." Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you If you don't think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half.

I had a good chuckle reading this book (newly expanded edition) by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. Although targeted at single females, I (a married woman) find it spot on and the answers offered were great. Men are not as complicated as what we think they are, and there are no mixed messages. The book educates women on how to tell when a guy just does not like them enough. Women can then stop wasting time making excuses for relationships that are not getting anywhere.

The authors included real-situation questions from women who are confused about the state of their relationship. They advocate freeing self from men who might just not be that into them, and move on. There are various clues to show "he's just not that into you" such as:

  • If he's not asking you out
  • If he's not calling you
  • If he's not dating you
  • If he's not having sex with you (I do not condone to sleeping together before marriage no matter how much a couple loves each other)
  • If he's having sex with someone else
  • If he only wants to see you when he's drunk
  • If he doesn't want to marry you
  • If he's breaking up with you
  • If he's disappeared on you
  • If he's married
  • If he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak

Each of the above is discussed question-and-answer format (just like the "Dear Aunt Agony" column in your favourite newspaper). I agree with Greg's answers because I have personally experienced some of them, and know what a good man looks like. When a guy is interested in you, he WILL make an effort. This reminded me of the super-shy, but determined Train Man who goes all out to win Hermes' heart. Train Man lends credibility to Greg and Liz's advices. There is a good man out there for every one of us.

I had loads of fun reading this book in one sitting, and knowing "he's just not that into you" can be liberating and powerful. I recommend that ladies (especially single ladies) read this book. Read it with an open mind. As I have mentioned earlier, I do not condone to sleeping together before marriage, but the rest of the book offers sound, common-sense advice.

I look forward to the movie which will be released in the Malaysian cinemas in April 2009. It is interesting to see that a nonfiction self-help book being adapted into a movie. Can't wait!

The Movie

The cast: Ben Affleck, Jennifer Aniston, Drew Barrymore, Jennifer Connelly, Kevin Connolly, Bradley Cooper, Ginnifer Goodwin, Scarlett Johansson, Justin Long